By Jen Glantz of Woman’s Day Magazine
(Features Attorney Amy Saunders)
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While there are obvious indicators a marriage is headed for the trenches — infidelity and irreconcilable differences — there are other, less noticeable problems that can chip away at a relationship over the long run. Divorce lawyers hear it and see it all, oftentimes noticing a common thread between their clients. Here are the top signs that your marriage won’t work according to the pros.
1. Money deception
All debts, accounts, and investments should be brought up before marriage, but it doesn’t always happen that way. Kathryn Harry, a lawyer at Oakbrook Law, says when one person doesn’t share full financial disclosure, issues arise. “Often times, when one party finds out that the other party filed for bankruptcy before or during the marriage, it ruins that party’s ability to trust in the other party,” says Harry. “Just as troubling is the spouse who does not freely disclose the amount of bonus money he/she received from his/her employment.”
2. Silent Treatment
Everyone communicates differently, but how a person reacts to a situation that gets them upset, angry, or all-around frustrated is important. According to Evie Jeang, the founder and managing partner of Ideal Legal group, giving your partner the silent treatment is a tell-tale sign of the relationship’s poor communication. “This is essentially the kiss of death for couples because it leads to feelings of resentment. Being able to work through issues that arise paves the way for resolution,” says Jeang.
3. Keeping lots of secrets
Honesty is usually the key to a relationship’s good foundation, but what happens when one spouse keeps a few secrets of their own? Will Medlin, an attorney at Horack Talley, says that one secret can turn into another and before you know it, there’s a break in the relationship. “A spouse suddenly becoming secretive – changing passwords to online access to bank accounts, changing email accounts, or changing or implementing phone passwords — can be a sign of infidelity,” says Medlin.
4. One spouse is overly controlling
Shaolaine Loving, a Las Vegas lawyer, says that one sign a relationship won’t work is when one spouse controls everything. “When one spouse controls the money flow in the house, this tends to breed resentment and a feeling of inferiority from the other spouse,” says Loving. “For instance, where a husband makes more or all of the money in the marriage and does not allow access to the money to the other spouse without the husband dispensing it. Inevitably, women in this type of arrangement feel enslaved in a negative way, where they feel like they don’t make choices over their own lives.”
Attorney Amy Saunders, Esq.
Legal Solutions Law Group PC
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Dedham, Massachusetts 02026
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